Porn Star Spouses

“A real woman is a man’s personal porn star.” I saw this posted on Facebook today and it made me think that what really works best in a relationship is when spouses are open to their partner’s sexual desires and fantasies. By fantasies I mean desires that inspire but aren’t necessarily meant to be real.  I find freedom in this thought. Freedom to share my darkest desires. There is an understanding that desires that might threaten the partnership aren’t meant to be real. Being excited by the idea of going to bed with the neighbor doesn’t mean you will actually do it

Too often, it seems, spouses are guarded about their desires. Afraid to share their fantasies. Well some get shared but the ones that would make your partner feel insecure or inadequate are omitted. Yet this omission can actually give the fantasy more power and put it in your mind more often.

I guess I understand some boundaries but it seems to me the fewer the better. Do you share all your fantasies with your partner?

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One Response to Porn Star Spouses

  1. blacktarheart says:

    Once. It is kind of fun if you let yourself enjoy it. People have too many rules. I have rules. I have bedtime for kids. That’s a rule. But it is not a rule by which we live and conduct ourselves or our minds.

    In any case, sharing is caring. Quiet is deadly.

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