The Hotwife Lifestyle

The hotwife lifestyle, as seen by a devoted male, is not about an inadequate male. It is about a male who enables his loved one to fulfill her wildest dreams by giving her complete control over their combined sexual activities. It may develop from feelings of inadequacy on the part of the man but more often it is the recognition of the power that a particular woman holds over him. That power can come from a deep love and devotion. He, more than likely, holds her in an elevated position.

To be a hotwife, the male has agreed to let her live out her fantasies.  To enable this, most husbands of hotwives will give them the lead on decisions in their sex life and, by definition, all the control over her own sex initiatives.  Often this situation is one-sided, meaning that the male is explicitly not allowed to do the same. There are quite a few cases of hotwives, where the husband initiates the action.

This power shift is usually explicit but not always.  The male often gives up this control willingly, especially those who hold their woman in an elevated position. It could also be because the male enjoys watching a woman fulfill her fantasies.  It might also be because she has better judgement that him.  Or maybe her imagination is greater.  Or maybe she is better at dealing with others; managing situations.

Whatever the reason, a growing number of married men and a growing number of married women seem to be embracing this lifestyle.  Perhaps, it has always been there and we are just more able to talk about it now.